Organization

I need to (re-)organize my life. The flat is in a bit of a state and I don't know where to start as everytime I clear out the kitchen/livingroom, Boyfriend comes home and dumps another load of CDs, padded envelopes, letters he cant be arsed reading etc etc. I'm not any better as I could sort everything out during the day while he's working. BUT I've said from the start that I am happy to clean, wash up, do the laundry, ironing etc but I am N O T picking up after him. + I want him to take out the trash - that's not too much to ask, is it?

He does do his share but only after I've nagged him for ages and then he usually starts with the trivial stuff - placing the DVDs in alphabetical order and things like that. I don't want to have to nag him. I want it to be an equal thing. It'd be nice if he for once said: "Alright Ems, how about we spend the next 30 minutes tidying up and then we'll watch a movie?" Or just once, just once -to take on the bathroom. I've actually left it, on purpose, to see if/when he notice that it's in dire need of a clean. It's been a week. I'm still waiting. I know that I don't spit toothpaste all over the wash basin. I know this because he, himself, pointed it out a while back - "You even spit in a girly way, right down the drain. he he!"

It also makes me a tad bit nervous - I'm starting a new job on the 12th and it's going to be tiring. I'm not even sure what it is I am supposed to do! I don't want to come home and have to nag about getting the flat tidy. He says it'll all change once I start working but forgive me, I am a sceptic. He said the very same thing "it'll all work out perfectly!" when he bought a bookcase for his student room. As if his books, by magic, would position themselves on the shelves. There were more books on the floor than in that bookcase the next time I visited him... So, I'm not too hopeful about how it's all going to work out/change on the 12th.

Is it a girl thing? Fair enough as I haven't had a job and I haven't complained but again, I refuse to pick up after him! Shoudl I have tried being gay? Would that have been the answer? I've never tried but sometimes I feel it could be worth it if the flat was kept neatly by the 2 people sharing it. I kind of like being with a boy though... And perhaps I'm just complaining over something not worth complaining about? It's just tiring, that's all.

I'm done ranting...